Communication with Intention

Especially for you, who are: constantly under pressure to perform, build business, be politic, volunteer, stay up late, lose weekends, holidays, family time and create perfect documents.

I love you, you’re smart, you’re committed and you’re fun to help. AND…

It hurts me when you don't perform at your highest levels. It also hurts to see you suffer with unnecessary internal doubts while you are performing at high levels. Much pain and suffering can be avoided with the correct understanding of what is internally out of sync with you. This understanding includes valuing the impact of the unique pressures you endure in your particular profession.

Jaqueline

For over 25 years drb has been helping children, families, individuals, couples, and people from diverse backgrounds with diverse sensibilities find their way to the core of their beings.

This she does with great intelligence, compassion, knowledge and wit. You will enjoy the journey to selfhood even through your pain.

The heart, contrary to Carson McCullers's title and implications, is not a lonely hunter; not when the guide is able and the connection to you is pure, committed, and sustained.
In her presence, stress is automatically reduced. For the rest, you are given tools to sustain a decreased stress level and successfully ride the waves of life in the pursuit of your specific dreams.

You will, ultimately, not be fearful of any challenge.

1. Social Group Work - All age groups- from nursery to elders- she ran normed groups, supervised social workers, designed, implemented and evaluated groups. Assistant Director of nursery summer program. Group work included special workshops for parents.

2. Teacher of Special Education - New York City Public School System

3. Clinician and Assistant Director for a division of Private New York City School. Much work done with parents as well as children and staff.

4. Media Coverage of work with children signifiacant. (i.e. Phil Donahue show/Runaways, New York Times articles regarding work with children, Quoted in Parent's Magazine, WBAI/ show on Spiritual Development of Children, panels on children and media).

5. Instructor - Childhood Psychopathology

6. Private Practice - All ages. It develops as she develops. (She needed to say this). Patients do graduate.

7. Workshops - Parents are People Too, Not Everything is Urgent, What Do You Exactly Mean?

8. Flex -fees & schedules where needed.

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. -Helen Keller

I always wondered when my mother said, "Stop that, my pressure, you could kill me," did she really know that high blood pressure could kill her? Was there data to support her fear-inducing attempts at parenting? I'm not saying I checked that research to assure myself of this newfound possible power over my mother's life, but yes, actually, the stats confirmed her information. Now, of course, we have more sophisticated statistics. According to the American Heart Association's most recent data, approximately one in three adults (U.S.) have high blood pressure and we certainly know that uncontrolled high blood pressure can lead to stroke, heart attack, or heart failure. Further, studies do indicate statistically probable relationships between depression, anxiety, anger levels and heart disease. In a recent study (McGill University and Universite de Montreal), researchers found that major anxiety and/or depression can double a coronary artery disease patient's chances of repeated heart ailments. This is an interesting study since it focuses on patients with stable coronary artery disease -- not those who were hospitalized for events of the heart such as heart attacks. Group therapy has been shown to be effective in decreasing probabilities of recurrence of heart attacks and this is hopeful. Other studies, actually, indicate that anti-depressants are not effective in decreasing heart attack recurrences in patients who were shown to suffer from depression. This is not surprising since it is my experience that the heart must be touched by another heart to relieve it's pain no matter the derivation of that pain. There are a whole lot of people who suffer in secret silence from a lonely disconnectedness from themselves and others.

Contrary to Carson McCullers's title (The Heart is A Lonely Hunter), the heart is not a lonely hunter, not necessarily anyway. And if you feel it is, just keep seeking opportunities to connect to people who hear what's in yours. They're there. Love, that magnificent hearing of and with your heart can happen all the time. Just go slow enough to listen to what the heart is saying. The fun part of heart-love is that it pops up unexpectedly anywhere, anytime. Be ready. Just stay open since love will keep your heart healthy and heal it if it aches. Whether treating depression, anxiety, trauma, addictions, delivering executive services, giving seminars, or working with young or old, the bottom line is, when the heart is touched, symptoms remit. I love that and it isn't magic. It's love, and that is felt with the heart.

Life is not easy. Children demand, spouses disappoint, friends test you, job realities shift, our bodies are vulnerable and our spirits can grow weary. Not unusual experiences. But any challenge is faced more easily with a loved and loving heart. We exercise to build strong muscles and bones and to keep our brain cells alert. We eat carefully and we use relaxation techniques to alleviate our stressors. This is all great. But don't forget what Mahatma Gandhi said, "Where there is love there is life. " So keep that heart open, it will help keep you alive, inside and out.